Who Are You II?
I have to admit I am really amazed and pleased with the result of the survey in Who Are You?
I had no idea that my readers, in age, created such a beautiful bell-shaped curve. Seems like what goes on here attracts a wide audience. I'm especially happy about the 20-29 audience.
While I happen to be in my 40s, it doesn't realllllly feel like I'm that age, and I don't want this to be a blog that only attracts people my age. I can't believe I just wrote that, that's the kind of stuff I used to hear older people say.
My only disappointment is that there seems to be more men than women reading, although the balance is still pretty good.
Gotta work on those women readers, though, not sure what is best approach. Risk is always trying to be everything to everyone and then no one is happy.
I guess I could have more pictures appealing to women, like this one. Only I'm not sure it really does appeal to women, or if it appeals more to men who like men.
It is called "Sailor Loading Fixed Ammunition," McClelland Barclay, Oil on canvas, 1942.
Or I could try to write more things that women might read, such as Mauren Dowd's fabulous opinion piece, How to Train A Woman, in the New York Times.
She describes how women may want to mold their men to be more obedient and less irksome, but there are nagging questions about nagging:
Does it work?
Apparently, someone called Amy Sutherland struck a chord in a recent Times essay -- about how she successfully applied the techniques of exotic animal trainers to change some annoying traits of her husband, Scott.
He became her guinea pig for methods she discovered as she researched a book on trainers teaching hyenas to pirouette, baboons to skateboard and elephants to paint.
''The central lesson I learned from exotic animal trainers is that I should reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don't,'' she wrote. ''After all, you don't get a sea lion to balance a ball on the end of its nose by nagging.''
She began using ''approximations,'' which means rewarding the small steps toward learning a whole new behavior. ''With the baboon you first reward a hop, then a bigger hop, then an even bigger hop,'' she wrote. ''With Scott the husband, I began to praise every small act every time: if he drove just a mile an hour slower, tossed one pair of shorts into the hamper, or was on time for anything.''
And Maureen Dowd quotes Helen Fisher, a Rutgers anthropologist and the author of ''Why We Love, saying, ''If I were a man rewarding a woman, I'd do it in the format women find intimate, which is face to face. I'd go straight up to her, while she was doing the dishes, I'd turn her around face to face, and I'd say: 'Thanks so much for being on time last night. It meant a lot to me.' '' (You might also tell her that you will not only finish the dishes, but that you want to finish the dishes.)
Maybe I should do a bit more like that. What do you think?